We were taking about birthday parties, all three were born in the summer within about 6 weeks of each other and she was debating one birthday party for all this year. As she asked what I did when my kids were little, we quickly noticed how much things have changed. She was saying how birthdays are starting young with friends, their siblings and full families, bouncy houses, Pinterest worthy snacks, food and decorations.
If you are a mom who does and enjoys those things more power to you. But to those moms who are overwhelmed at the thought that your child's birthday won't find its way on Pinterest this is for you.
First, take control of the outcome by offering choices. If you know your child is into super heroes, cars and sports offer having a party in one of those themes.
Second, limit the number of guests. I think my sister gave me this advice, when they are five they can invite 5 friends, turning ten, ten friends. We did this until they were teens and it worked out great. It kept me from being overwhelmed with 20 five year olds plus all of their siblings.
Third, KISS, keep it simple stupid. If you can buy toys to go on the cake as decoration do it! For super hero parties we had Spider-Man on a building cake. Star Wars: Obi won was fighting Jango Fett on the planet Geonosis. Horse party: a horse running in a meadow. Quick, easy and a present too!
Fourth, if you can afford to hire your babysitter or you are fortunate to have teens involved in your life, ask them to give you a hand. They are great at corralling, serving, and keeping the games rolling during the party.
Last, remember your child isn't going to remember all the tiny Pinterest details that you stayed up until 2am making (which unfortunately brought out ugly mommy the next morning), they are going to remember their friends, and the fun they had. They would rather have you enjoying your time with them than hiding in the kitchen adding individual petals to their flower garden cupcakes.
